I was talking to my SIL Mel today, and I told her that after almost 2 years, I finally feel like we have some sort of a routine and our day-to-day life has become somewhat predictable. It is quite nice. I feel like I get to spend enough quality time with Simon everyday, I make dinner most nights, get Simon into bed by 9 now (or earlier some nights!) instead of 10 or later, and even have time for myself. I still need work on spending enough quality time with Steve, but this past week we have been playing lots of Halo together, and that has been really fun. But most nights I do something for myself while he is studying and then we crawl (or I get carried) into bed exhausted. I have even been doing pretty good at keeping the house clean. The kitchen gets cleaned about 3 times a week, the living room 2 times a week, and upstairs... well does that really count as part of the house? We pretty much just go up there to sleep anyways. and laundry... well that gets done about once a week-and by done I mean we wash it all normally once a week or whenever we are out of whites or scrubs and then it goes into a huge tote in our bedroom.
I feel like things are finally under control around here, life doesn't seem as hectic, and I feel like I get a lot of good quality time out of the 3 hours a night I get to spend with my son. I really enjoy being a mom, and I can't wait until I get to be a stay at home mom.
No, I am not pregnant. But I very recently came to the realization that if you want more than one child, it is smartest to get pregnant with that second child before #1 gets much more than 18 months old. At that point Child #1 starts to get a lot of "personality" and starts to become more independent, stubborn, smart, and frustrating. And at that point you start to wonder if you really want more than one child. Seriously, there are brief moments when I wonder why I would want more than one child, and then you get those wonderful moments where you think you would want tons of kids because they are so wonderful and sweet, and want to call their dad before they go to bed just to say goodnight and I love you.
I love my Simon-son, but man, sometimes I ask myself, do I really want to go through this again- and then maybe even a couple more times after that? No worries though, we do want more kids, and intend to start trying in January while we are on amfabulous trip to Malta! And after that, maybe it will be a good idea to have the kids a little closer in age. I actually wanted them to be about 2 years apart, but I also wanted Steve and I to be able to go to Malta- which had to happen after he graduates, and I didn't want to be pregnant on the trip because that would be miserable, and I knew if I had a young baby at home there was no way I would be able to leave it behind for two weeks. Luckily I have finally gotten over my attachment issues with Simon, and I am pretty sure I can handle being apart for 2 weeks. I left him with Steve for 1 week while I went to Vegas for work, and it went very well.
So anyways, if you plan on having kids, have them about 2 years apart, because if you wait until Child #1 is almost 2, you are going to be seriously reconsidering your desire to have more kids.
So back in mid-January Steve, Simon, and I went to see my sister Leslie and her family. After that trip and having a hard time with getting Simon to take a bottle in my presence or even a sippy cup we decided it was time to finally wean Simon. It's really not much fun to spend your vacation trying to get your son to take a bottle and I didn't wan to spend the whole time pumping and trying to nurse him still It was hard for me the first two days, but we did it very quickly and Simon never even seemed to notice, so I would say it went very well for us. I did enjoy breastfeeding Simon and I think we ended perfect timing for us. It was getting really stressful for me pumping at work and I was just really tired all the time. Since weaning, I feel more energetic and happy, I am less stressed, I actually get to hang out and do nothing during my breaks at work, I get to eat lunch with both hands, I don't have to stress about getting enough to eat and drink so I can produce good healthy milk, and I feel like I have more time to spend with my son at home. Granted, we have just as much time to spend together, but now we can spend it together playing! At nighttime I do still rock him to sleep and give him a bottle, but it just feels more relaxing now. I let Steve put Simon to bed at least once a week now which I think is nice for Steve because it isn't something he ever got to do in the past.
All in all, breastfeeding was wonderful. I am huge fan of breastfeeding and plan to do it with our next child also. The other day Steve was studying for his OB class and asked how long I want to nurse our next kid, and I said just as long as we did with Simon, and maybe even to 18 months. Yes, I am one of those people... Simon was weaned at about 14 months, and I think if I hadn't been working it would have been a lot easier, it is definitely a huge commitment and lifestyle decision, but for anyone willing to do it, it is totally worth it. I think as a working mother I enjoyed it even more because I felt like since my son is in daycare I don't get to be around him as much, so for me, pumping was a way for me to still provide for my son and take care of him even though I couldn't be with him all day.
We got married January 12, 2007 in Sparks, NV. On our first anniversary we got sealed in the Salt Lake temple. Had our first boy November 7, 2008, and our second on September 26, 2011. Steve is a nurse and I now get to stay home with the boys. We never have free time but used to enjoy playing video games, watching movies, hiking, camping, rock climbing, and playing in the river or Lake Tahoe.